Roast my profile (or: What am I doing wrong)

You being a mythical orc creature is the main turn off for many

I'm quite well aware not everyone would be up to face an amazonian orcess... Hence this is why I created several "normal non-amazonian" characters who are listed on my orcess' profile.

Also no offense taken here. :3

My apologies, I confused the two profiles, of the advice giver and the person seeking the advice. Entirely my fault, and I did not mean to cause offense

You really need to be more specific with your wording and sentence structure😅
The way you commented made it seem like you're just coming out of the blue to insult Bholdora, hence why Lexi and I reacted negatively, thinking you're one of those "to hell with fantasy profiles" people just being unnecessarily rude.
Though I will say...the structure and format of forum threads didn't help either with the original commenter's message being at the bottom of the thread instead of on top of it!

"Many"... it might be for you but you can't exactly speak for most people on that basis alone. This really was an entirely unnecessary comment against someone just giving legit advice. Grow up

I think my comment is legit, and I stand by it. Sorry if it offended you, you seem to have a thin skin, and don't want to take opinions that contradict your own.

IMHASO the problem here is because you're showing your character as "submissive". This is usually a deal breaker for some people here as even when you say you won't give an easy fight for your opponent, still being "submissive" might sound for some women who are into mixed fight as "someone who will just put little effort on their posts only to get handled and stepped on by a strong and hot female opponent".

Thank you for your honest feedback. Yeah, I can see how being "too honest" about leaning submissive might be misunderstood. Maybe this is a good point to start.

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I hope it's okay to ask something that might really be a very particular problem of me :-) So I've been a member for almost half a year now and so far my experience here as been quite frustrating and I don't see any way to change that without outside help.

In all this time I was not able to find a single opponent/make a single contact. I know it's always hard for a male looking for females, but at the moment I stand at almost 100 messages without any meaningful replies. And these were no mass-messages but all individually, hand-crafted. I read all profiles. I tried long messages, I tried short. I tried asking questions. I tried proposing scenario-ideas, I tried chat and direct messages... All without success.

And I know from other, similar situations that I'm usually quite good at crafting opening-messages (I'd say a reply quota of somewhere between 1:10 and 1:5 is what I usally have).

So by now I'm suspecting that there is something wrong with my profile, some red flags I unknowingly added, some unwritten rule of this community I'm breaking. So please: be brutally honest and tell me what I'm doing wrong, what I should improve, what red flags you see. Because withoput outside help, I just don't know what to change.

Hi there Sag einfach ja,

Nice to meet you…

I must say.. this is a difficult question....And I don’t think I can actually put into words correctly what it is you need to do to connect to other roleplayers on this site.. I think it is something everyone on this site struggles with. In general I don’t have any problem finding roleplay partners on this site.. But i have come across people i really wanted to roleplay against.. And messed up my approach spectacularly… I mean really bad….What I mean to say is, it just is quite difficult to find a good roleplay partner. And it it is something most people on this site struggle with..

Also, there are people who are egocentric in what the want from a roleplay. People in bad moods. People who are too nice to have a decent roleplay against. People who aren’t nice enough to have a roleplay with. People with depraved minds, people without depraved minds (those are the worst). People who are very touchy, and easily offended. People who can’t write. People who only have single line reply’s. There are people who never stop writing. And there are people on this site who aren’t interested in roleplaying at all.

The community on chatfighters seems to be quite diverse… Almost as if you are… And I’m not saying you are… But almost as if you are dealing with humans…There are people who love the competitive aspect of a roleplay, and like to roleplay wwe, boxing or other ring sports. Personally i almost always find that boring.. Something you can be certain about is that almost everyone on this site wants to be approached differently. And seeks a slightly different roleplay experience. If you, for example would approach me with the idea of a wwe or boxing ring type fight that would be an instant no for me. But there are a lot of people on this site who love that kind of thing! While i am more of a fight-Bert&Ernie-in-a-brutally-violent-depraved-deathmatch type of gal..

So.. to each her own...

Now you asked a question about what was wrong with your profile. Somebody wrote something about being an mythical orc creature would be a problem for a lot of people. That is probably true.. However, to me it would be less of a problem, then say your current profile…
So I can’t really tell you what is wrong with your profile, or why people don’t want to roleplay with you.. I can tell you however, the reason I wouldn’t be attracted to your profile. And that is because it is a bit to vanilla for my taste… An ogre, for example.. would be less off-putting to me…
So from where I am standing your current character, and an ogre, are both quite niche, and tailored towards a very specific group of roleplayers…Now that is not necessarily a bad thing.. But you do have to find that one player..

Perhaps you should be asking yourself, when you approach someone. What is the other person getting out of this? Are they as excited as me about this?

A bit more practical; in your case in order to get a roleplay, i think the easiest way to get fights with your current character, is to “Hulk Hoganifiy” your current character, (don’t do this literally) and join one of those wrestling feds where they hold tournaments.. I think they are quite big feds, with lots of people in them with sort of the same interests.. Chat in the federation feed, about anything.. join a tournament, hopefully have a few fights, and a few stories..then things should start getting a little easier. And don’t Just play submissive..If someone is a competitive roleplayer, nothing is a greater turnoff... both winning and losing are fun.. I don’t know if you tried any of this, but it might be worth trying.

Things I know that work in having an easier time connecting to others…
- having stories on your profile (yes, I see the conundrum).
- Find out what others like in roleplays, and if that suits you.
- Have a discussion of kinks and limits beforehand.

Now you are probably thinking “well Cammy that is all nice and dandy. But I have heard all of this before” “you made me read a lot of text, yet i have learnt nothing!” "I hate you cammy!"

Thruth of the matter is I have no idea what I am doing either.. And probably nobody on this site does..

Now as I said I can’t really help you get more roleplays. But if you want to destroy your chances further, I do have a few tips!

- Do cold approaches!
- When addressing someone with an obvious vanilla profile, Immediatly start of with your weirdes fetish, random incoherent blather, and extreme violence…
- Be the embodiment of maximum alpha male energy!
- Have the EQ of a peanut.
- Make tons of spelling errors.
- Only, and only… single line replies.
- Ignore any and all limits of other roleplayers.
- After they told you to sod off.. Keep bothering them!
- Did I tell you about cold approaches? They're the best!

Hope this helps!

Love,

Cammy

Hi Cammy, thank you for taking the time to write such an extensive reply. I think there are one or two valuable tips in there that I will take to heart 😀
Although many are probably more for the second step I didn't reach yet (getting a reply/into a conversation). But at least I'm a bit more prepared if that ever should happen... And I still got a few ideas what to do with my profile, so thanks for that as well. 🙏

Honestly, this may seem like a minor detail, but your AI pics look A LOT like a very specific, very famous American actor. And no offense to him, but he's not usually cast to play the type of guy I'd want to tangle with in my mixed fight fantasies (I tend to go for classic rogues, as opposed to sweethearts). Of course, I am almost exclusively interested in drawn characters at this point... it just fits my aesthetic better. But that's just me! Others very well might not mind the pics.

I can't speak to some of the other things... for instance, I am not much of a wrestler, so I don't tend to mesh super well with men or women who primarily do pro-style or grappling (although there have been some great exceptions). As far as submissiveness, it's true, I do like to win, but I like to know that my opponent wants to win, too, even if he is fine with losing. I don't know if that's helpful, but I thought I'd share.

You do seem like a very reasonable, good natured guy, and I'm sure you could be fun to play with, so I sincerely hope you find a good match soon!

Hi Joanna, thank you for your kind words and honest opinion! I'll see what I can do about the pictures and will experiment a bit. Maybe I'll find something that works better and I still feel comfortable with.

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